Comments on: Learning Kindness - James, The Buddhist Blog http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/ Commentaries on Meditation, Zen, Buddhism, and Mindfulness Sun, 12 Oct 2008 19:18:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Jerry http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-12447 Jerry Tue, 01 Jan 2008 05:52:53 +0000 http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-12447 What a wonderful gift to give and receive. This story touched my heart because I envisioned myself having the same feelings as she did. What a wonderful gift to give and receive. This story touched my heart because I envisioned myself having the same feelings as she did.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11598 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Wed, 14 Nov 2007 15:40:24 +0000 http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11598 My mother-in-law just taught me this lesson about being vulnerable and asking for help this past weekend. She has been having some health problems and recently had a procedure done on her health's electrical system. We talked with her last Thursday and she sounded well enough and strong enough that I decided to stay home and not go to stay with her while my husband and his brother who lives with her went out to work on Saturday night and Sunday. She told Daniel later that she wished I had come to stay with her. Her blood pressure is still giving her problems with going too high. Sunday morning, she called the ambulance and went back to the ER with her high blood pressure. My husband and I had discussed whether I should go or not before he left here Saturday night. My husband is going back this weekend and I am going with him to stay with her while they go out to work. I am going to tell her that all she has to do is ask and I will be there. I won't assume she is ok because she sounds strong over the phone. She didn't ask because she didn't want to be vulnerable. My mother-in-law just taught me this lesson about being vulnerable and asking for help this past weekend. She has been having some health problems and recently had a procedure done on her health’s electrical system. We talked with her last Thursday and she sounded well enough and strong enough that I decided to stay home and not go to stay with her while my husband and his brother who lives with her went out to work on Saturday night and Sunday. She told Daniel later that she wished I had come to stay with her. Her blood pressure is still giving her problems with going too high. Sunday morning, she called the ambulance and went back to the ER with her high blood pressure.

My husband and I had discussed whether I should go or not before he left here Saturday night. My husband is going back this weekend and I am going with him to stay with her while they go out to work.

I am going to tell her that all she has to do is ask and I will be there. I won’t assume she is ok because she sounds strong over the phone. She didn’t ask because she didn’t want to be vulnerable.

]]> By: Karl Staib http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11597 Karl Staib Wed, 14 Nov 2007 14:28:17 +0000 http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11597 Many of us want to be cared for, but not sacrifice our independence. It's a fine balance. It's one I'm still learning to accept. The only way to do that is working with these feelings everyday. Many of us want to be cared for, but not sacrifice our independence. It’s a fine balance. It’s one I’m still learning to accept. The only way to do that is working with these feelings everyday.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11560 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Mon, 12 Nov 2007 23:36:25 +0000 http://themiddleway.net/2007/11/12/learning-kindness-james-the-buddhist-blog/#comment-11560 What a wonderful story. So many of us are quick to offer help and slow to ask and allow others to help us. It takes being vulnerable to others to allow someone to help you. Most of us are afraid of being vulnerable. We are afraid of being disappointed. Being vulnerable is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and to others. In being willing to be vulnerable, we often teach those around us that being vulnerable is ok. Teaching by example is one of the best ways to teach others. What a wonderful story. So many of us are quick to offer help and slow to ask and allow others to help us. It takes being vulnerable to others to allow someone to help you. Most of us are afraid of being vulnerable. We are afraid of being disappointed. Being vulnerable is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and to others. In being willing to be vulnerable, we often teach those around us that being vulnerable is ok. Teaching by example is one of the best ways to teach others.

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